I love the start of a New Year.
I love New Beginnings. New Projects and Passions.
But I also recognise completions, endings and letting go are vital to this process.
Closure creates fresh space for new energy and opportunities to appear.
Acceptance, the release of past hurts and gratitude for the lessons learnt allows you to be fully open to receive all the abundance, love and joy that is available.
These are my favourite feel-good rituals to welcome in a New Year.
1. Write down 5 things that you want to let go from the past year. Burn the List and Let.It.Go
Think of your “lows’ and repetitive situations you may have found yourself in and really feel (for a short time) the discomfort and pain that remembering them creates for you. Be really honest with yourself and wholeheartedly commit to changing and releasing any negative repetitive pattern or story in your life.
You can chose to spend as little or as long as you like on this list but the key is to connect and release so you can invite the new in. Don’t put it off. The sooner you do this, the sooner good things can follow.
I also love “Tapping” or EFT and the sway technique to release old blockages but for New Year change, writing it down is my preference.
2. Listen to the wisdom of your heart. Create a list of your true hearts desires without thinking about the how.
Be present, create some stillness and connect in with what really lights you up. Focus on how you want to feel and then look at your goals and plans to see if they are aligned and take full responsibility for your part in making them happen.
I have chosen a handful of key feelings which I want experience everyday. They link into various goals and the inspired actions I commit to take which I believe will help me feel these feelings but are fluid enough to allow for spontaneous opportunities to appear.
Danielle LaPorte calls these Core Desired Feelings and insists we make feeling good a priority. In our results based culture, masculine energy drives performance and business has become adept at discrediting the intelligence of our feelings focusing on learnt knowledge and proven evidence instead. But if we really want to feel good we have to connect to our hearts first and then our heads – our intuition can be a powerful leadership tool and guide. When something inspires you from deep inside and is heart-felt it is far easier to go the extra mile.
I want to feel whole, self assured, loving and loveable, valued and valuable, connected and expansive and my goals this year include giving a TED talk, seeing a strong shift in our business leadership and management styles to embrace a more feminine and gender balanced paradigm, tripling my income, getting married and starting a family. Whoo hoo, bring it on!
3. Embrace the transition and surrender to change.
Release. The. Resistance. In my work I support women through the transition from single self to mother and back to the workplace. I am now offering my unique insights and knowledge to companies and corporations and in my own life have learnt that when we embrace change the journey is far more pleasurable and the results far more pleasing. The business case for diversity in companies is being proven and when we allow our own lives to be more diverse and less vanilla we open up to all sorts of opportunities. Change can be scary but staying safe is very limiting. I chose highs over lows. When you jump off that cliff know that rather than falling, a breeze or bird can catch you (metaphorically speaking) and you can rise higher than you ever imagined.
4. Take inspired action daily.
Ok. Most days. I allow myself some off days, some down days but overall, I ensure am heading forward and towards feelings and desires that inspire and uplift so that it feels easier, do-able and I want to take action.
We are either running away from pain or towards pleasure. If you are focused on the pain of a situation and creating distance you will still be in the vibration of the negative. Connect in with the good feelings and the process becomes much simpler. You are in control of your life and how you respond and react to others. Value your desires and know that being your true highest self will benefit those around you.
5. Check in and see how it feels. Be flexible if you need to self edit.
Don’t expect all your actions to feel completely comfortable at first. Our ego’s main role is protection rather than growth and we all resist change to some degree. If you are really resisting remind yourself that new opportunities can only happen if you create a space and do something different to previous. Take some (legal) risks and play with your comfort zone. It’s the only way to grow.
Off to the Pantomine now!
Wishing you a beautiful and blissful January and 2015.