Trust, Breathe and Ask for Help.
It sounds simple enough.
Last night I caught up with one of my closest friends. When we first met in Australia around 15 years ago I had no idea she would become one of my best sounding boards and trusted advisors.
She has the balls and bravado of Samantha from Sex and the City and the compassion, insight and spiritual sassy-ness to rival some of the worlds top gurus.
And we are on the same wavelength when it comes to choosing a great glass of wine. Not everybody is.
We were discussing a situation I was in two minds about and was wavering. She told me “Just trust”.
This morning I woke up to another trusted advisor – my amazing business coach and I hope now, friend – Michelle Holmes, telling me to “listen to this”.
It was the gorgeous and inspirational Danielle La Porte and her words of wisdom on “Trust is Crucial”.
Anyone spotting a pattern here?
Eight or so years ago, when I opened the doors of Me & My Baby Therapy Rooms, I think its fair to say I trusted no-one but myself. As a result I didn’t ask for help from anyone. Not for the finances, the concept, the name, the look, the details, the contracts. Who to hire, who to let go. I was sole sufficient and proud of it. I learnt a huge amount and yes I acknowledge my achievements now but it was damn hard work and not all that fun.
Trusting in yourself but being open to receiving help you when you need it is one of the biggest lessons I have learnt in allowing my life to be as wonderful, expansive and happy as I believe it can be. It’s still a “work in progress” but I definitely now listen to my “inner voice” and connect in with my soul in a very different way since I started meditating. Most of my days now start with a short time of quiet to tune in to my own desires and I ask for help to come when I need it. Bizarrely, it generally does. Via an email, a call, or a seemly random but weirdly poignant comment from a friend. Support and help, I believe, is everywhere once you open up to it! The universe wants us to be happy and achieve our potential.
I’m sure I wouldn’t have got through last year as whole and happy now had it not been for my incredibly supportive bereavement counsellor. Or my amazing friends and family. Sometimes it wasn’t pretty at all but we can now look back and I know the bonds we share are super strong, deep and true.
When you go through any transition or change in life – heck, when you are just living your life – it is great to ask for help and I highly recommend it. My Little Pink Book was created for just that reason – because if I can’t help you in your pregnancy I’m pretty sure I know someone wonderful, trusted and amazing who can.
Being a new mum and arriving at a place in your life which is so new – and yes, wonderful – but crazy, messy, comfort stretching and exhausting isn’t something to do alone.
Don’t suffer in silence. Meditate in silence. Get clear on what you need. And then ask for help in acquiring it!